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I have two hearts

Well all have one brain and one heart but I have two hearts and no brain. The machinery of second heart looks identical to brain but the soul of that particular part is no where around the brain. Okay, I am back with a new theory which I think needs some explanation here

I always prefer to think by heart before my brain starts working. What I felt in last few months is thinking just by heart is not enough but on the same hand can not always work in the way my brain wants me to! So what I did is looked around and tried to see how things work if I change the way I behave normally. The outcome is fun and very effective!

The first thing what I did was I stopped thinking just by heart and started using both to see the ways I get to react over a situation. In start, it was tough to stay on one decision as both brain and heart move on parallel paths. They do not think in the same way in any situation. Let me give you an example. A friend of mine is talking a lot about me (of-course negative) behind my back these days. When I came to know the first thought came in my heart was revenge! (I am not that “sadhu” child you know!) but when I tried to calm down and think from the head, a very easy way out came and I poked him hell lot so that he loose patience, do something stupid and himself break the friendship and I remain the “clean image” guy. So I took the revenge but I am still the same in rest of the friends’ eyes. I am telling all this here as he started all this not me. The best lesson I learned in my life from my mom is “don’t start first and then don’t leave the court till end”. (BTW every theory written or studied by me has some essence from teachings of my mother. So if you admire any of them, the praise is transfered to her directly )

The main thing I want to say here is using only brain or only heart will not solve the problems of your life. You have to use both of them in almost every point in life. No matter the person in front of you is a friend, a family member or your life partner, just going ahead and doing something may drag you in more problems. Thinking twice before doing anything is the best way out. If you think it will take time, I can assure you that it won’t. Once you start using both of them, the answer to the problem comes faster than before. Why? Every tried using 2 GB RAM instead of 1 GB?

Now what you have to do is to train you brain to think like heart and train your heart to think like brain but make sure your heart does not become second brain as in that case you will become selfish and will not be able to prove yourself a helping hand even if the need in front is genuine. Once your brain and heart start working together, every problem and every target will become easy and the life will start moving on an easy pace. This will for sure will take a little time as from the very beginning we are trained to think differently from heart and brain.

The best things that can happen once you are on the right way of getting two hearts may include:

1. It won’t be difficult for you to face the problems in life no matter its related to family or money.
2. It will be much easier for you to forget someone, though forgetting completely is not possible but making the image of the relation ‘bokeh’ will be easy.
3. It will become easier for you to find solutions for the friends around you. I am talking about the friends not contacts. To know more about the difference please have a look on this article Create Squares Out Of Your Circle.
4. It will become more easy for you to think about your work and relationship/family on the same time. Though it is not recommended to do both on same time and keep things different but its not easy for everyone.
5. You can enjoy the moments with friends and family without bothering what is happening around you. The circle will become the true circle and will have stronger bond.

Still, a lot of changes can be felt, a lot of stress can be removed. The only thing you need is two hearts and no brain. Think before you step, think before you speak and think before you say anything but with double the pace

Keep up the spirits

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