In Love? EXPRESS IT
Written by Anurag Bhateja on June 21, 2009 – 12:26 pm -Yes, this is a love tip. After pauses, sometimes I feel I need to write on this topic. I am getting so many mails from “Broken hearts” for the solution of their problems and asking me to start a dedicated section for them so that people can ask me about their problems. So here is the link to the Solve Your Love Problems section.
Anyway, lets get back to the topic I was telling about. Love, is a feeling which can make your life the most beautiful thing for you or even can make a mess out of nothing. The main thing is what you are expecting from it. Love can not be defined, it can not be forced and you can not just go and get your boy/girl into your life. It is something unconditional and without and boundaries.
When you are in love, the first thing you should be clear about is that it is LOVE, not infatuation or attraction or crush but true and pure love. To find out if you are really in love please think of the following questions and answer them. You will find if you are in love or not. Give one point for every “YES”.
1. Do you see his/her physically or photo everyday in morning?
2. Do you want to call him/her when you are excited about something or feeling lonely?
3. Do you send him/her ecards or hardcovers cards telling you are missing him/her?
4. Do you see him/her in dreams?
5. Do you give kiss when you are about to sleep? (It is not important that s/he knows about it.)
6. Do you wait for him/her photo upload on social networking websites and try to be the first one to comment? Yes this is funny but a nice way to find out.
7. Do you get jealous when s/he praises someone else?
8. Do you want to just listen to him/her without saying a single word?
9. Do you have his/her picture in your computer/phone/purse?
10. Do you remember his/her phone number?
If you answer yes for 7 out of these 10 questions, dear express your love. Propose him/her. Please do not hide your feelings in you and tell him/her that s/he mean something to you. Now sometimes the case may be like this also that s/he is in love with someone else and you just do not want to mess his/her life but you, on the same time, are not able to control your emotions. In such condition, you should express your feelings in front of someone mature enough to suggest you what to do. Try to get information on how s/he reacts to the situation if something happens like this. If you find s/he may get furious and can break relationship with you, do not wait and tell.
Confused? Do not get confused. If s/he do not know, you will keep on getting closer and closer and will make situation more miserable. Once s/he know let him/her decide what to do. Is s/he is mature enough, s/he will tell you what s/he feels about you and will tell you to stop thinking about him/her. There can be 100s of people out there who are in one sided love and end up with very bad situations as they do not tell what they feel.
Another thing which can happen is his/her lover can try to mess with you. Do not feel bad or over react in such condition. It is you who created problem for them. So just calm down and talk to him/her and tell that you are not going to create problems with them. Try to be as friendly and calm as possible. This will help you and them to get out of the situation and will help you in to continue the friendship.
Now, what if s/he just go out of your life? What is s/he do not want to talk to you? Do not feel bad and let it be like this. Let the things calm down and then talk to him/her. After making things go in the way the person in front of you, never expected to be, you can not make everything normal in one go. You have to be very careful for every step you make.
And if, you are afraid of doing all this. You feel you should not do this, then you can just sit and watch your feelings just getting deeper and deeper. In such case please make sure you do not regret in future for not even expressing your feelings.
Be a good lover and admire him/her the way you want. Do not make their life hell by keep things secret and allowing room for the chance that they come to know about your feelings from someone else. This may harm your relationship more than you can harm it by directly telling him/her.
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By Raman Sharma on Jun 22, 2009 | Reply
LOVE GURU!! yaar express to karein but how?? it need a lot of Guts… and I think that is the thing which I never had or will have(at least about girls) .
Suggest something….
By Anurag Bhateja on Jun 22, 2009 | Reply
Dear Raman,
Expressing love is as easy as eating cake and as difficult as breaking concrete wall with your finger. The thing is first you need to confirm that you are in love. Expressing true love will never make you look like a stupid n front of the girl. You can think of different ideas of proposing which will be keep on coming in the blog in love tips section.
The simplest and most common idea is to express it with a flower which, though is outdated, still works. But I do not suggest you to try it. Keep track of the blog. From tomorrow I will keep on throwing suggestions on how to propose. Rest you can read old entries, you will find some information.
Tip: Do not tell on phone or SMS. If she is in front of you, she can not run from you
By Tanya on Jun 24, 2009 | Reply
blessings to you for writting a post on this.
By John on Jul 13, 2009 | Reply
“I love you” is very common now a days. All of us just do not trust if it is just by a word. So words are very useless. I just think that if there is some other way to express other than words it would be more useful. Pliz advice me a way out of it
By topen on Sep 26, 2009 | Reply
my opinion, before you express your love..make sure make him attract to you first, don’t be to rusty to expressing love to her…make sure you had an attraction… to him first
because if she already attract to you, then mostly you will get her love, if there is no attraction to you mostly she will decline u, or you fall on the friendzone…
lot of guys false to do this…CMIIW
By akira07 on Oct 2, 2009 | Reply
Wo ai ni (china), i love you (english), aishiteru (japan), aku cinta kamu (indonesia) is a ways to confess love. Well, a love confession for some people is just like rusian roullete. When the girl refuse, that’s same as die….
There is many things should be considered before make a confession. For example me, i’ll confess if i’m sure 80% she will accept me as her boyfriend.
Hey, answering that 10 question is makes me know that as far, i’m not in “love” with her. I may just get interested with her, but it’s not love. Thanks for makes me not confuse again.
By geneve on Oct 13, 2009 | Reply
great tip for those who are in love
By Jenn on Oct 13, 2009 | Reply
thanks for the tips anurag
By Dum on Oct 16, 2009 | Reply
love is always have someone beside us….
By Lidia Robahi on Oct 16, 2009 | Reply
Love is the mystery of life that would not be guessed by anyone, who understands love is God because God created love
By akira07 on Oct 17, 2009 | Reply
@Lidia
And thanks to God, because love is the most great bless more than any bless