Hold Your Fingers Tiger!
Written by Anurag Bhateja on June 15, 2009 – 9:36 am -Lets think over it. You are socially very active over the internet and meet/chat with hundreds of people everyday. Even if we make it in some other dimension and say meet a few people everyday online. Now, what medias you are using? Facebook, Orkut, Flickr, Yahoo Messenger, Gtalk or anything else, all these can make and make or destroy your reputation in seconds. Reputation? Where is comes from online? Why the hell I should think of online reputation huh? I know you must be thinking of these questions.
Let me make this thing clear with a simple example. This is impossible that you have not attended any party yet. Right? Now think what you feel if someone in the party comes to you and say “Dude what the f***ing dress are you wearing! You look like an A**h**e in it!” and being more bad he says same thing on the mic. How would you feel? Bad? The reputation of that person will go down in your eyes and you will not like to continue meeting him. On the other hand if he says the same thing in person without letting other people know in a way which do not hurt you like “Bro, please work on your dresses. These may not look good on you in public. This may ruin your impression.” Though this line is pretty harsh too but will not hurt like the previous one.
The same thing is with online presence. On flickr, facebook, orkut or wherever, the moment you show your “attitude” or try to tell you are the best, you are gone and your reputation will start decreasing in the eyes of fellow people and visitors on your profile. Let me give some examples.
1. Few days back there was SP2 launch of Vista and being not so geek, I thought this is beta release. Said as a reply to an online friend on facebook. One of his friends replied that I am a nut, I don’t know anything, I do not know meaning of RTW (release to web) and it was in way bad language. The friend have to come in private and apologize plus delete the whole status as that guy said many things to many people in the replies. On part of my friend, I am impressed that he apologized from every single person but what about the person who said so much? His reputation is gone forever. Atleast in eyes of those to whom he addressed like this in public.
2. On flickr you will find many people doing harsh comments on photos. Even some of my online+offline friends do this which I try to avoid and also suggets them not to do. But, old problems do not go away so easily.
If DOF is not good, the pic is out of focus or the composition is not “so good”, please tell IN PRIVATE. DO NOT YELL YOUR “EXPERT” WORDS IN PUBLIC. These words can make you away from visitors. If you do not like the photograph try to ask what photographer was trying to get and you may find “Oh my God! I was thinking in other way! S/he is right!”. Try to be a good social human being and learn the ethics to be online. Try to avoid CAPITAL letters as this is yelling over the internet.
The main thing you should keep in mind is that the world today, is based on one simple rule i.e. “You Scratch My Back And I Will Scratch Yours“. The more you try to be good with people around you over the internet, the more you will become popular and they will love to be in contact with you. Be helpful, be a guide when possible, do not show attitude, do not show that you know everything. Try this and you will the difference in the eyes of the people for you.
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By Prashant on Jun 16, 2009 | Reply
Hi Anurag, I agree with you for not being rude in public, but at the same time I strongly believe that healthy criticism is good “especially in public”, if one does critic in public its not only good for that person, but for everyone who puts eye on it. If we put our suggestions in private, it would be more diplomatic but its the loss of others. Let others too get some good information. I would love to hear my criticism, if I am wrong, I should be told but what for others, if one is wrong others too must know whats correct and whats not with that. But that shouldn’t be done at the expense of hurting one with hard words. So, I would say keep your critic eye open but limit the words that come out of your mouth.
Prashant
By Anurag Bhateja on Jun 17, 2009 | Reply
@Prashant: The main reason to post this is, when you are online, no one can judge how good you are while doing critic. It may just ruin your reputation in seconds no matter how intelligent you are. Its good that you can listen to criticism but it is not the case with everyone. We are online to increase our social network, not to hear critics from those who know nothing about us. Think over it
. Critic from an expert is always welcomed until we know s/he is expert.
By geneve on Oct 16, 2009 | Reply
Yes totally true.If you are just gonna comment something bad on a person then better tell it to him/her directly.
By Dum on Oct 16, 2009 | Reply
it’s better to me to keep silent.