Boy, You need to understand her!!

Written by Anurag Bhateja on April 19, 2010 – 12:07 am -

For all the lovers out there, I AM BACK! haha. Love tips, is something I really enjoy writing and love to see the words from your sides. I have changed the category name from daily love tips to love tips as I am not a regular writer in this section. Okay, lets come the point now.

What I have seen in last few months, we the males are not sensitive for the feelings of our partner. Sorry, to say in such straight way but it is true. What we normally do is, give love, get what we want (keep in mind “girls do sex for love and boys love for sex” which is a hardcore truth!), then get possessive and ruin her life.

Now see the points below. You will find that you follow at least 80% of them. They have both before and after marriage points.

  1. Don’t talk to that boy/girl as s/he is not a good person.
  2. Don’t go with friends for such outings.
  3. Why are you wearing such an outfit?
  4. Why your phone was busy?
  5. Whom were you with yesterday at this time at that particular place?
  6. There is no need to go there for job.
  7. Why the hell do you want to work?
  8. Checks the mobile/mail (very bad habit) and say “Who is he? How do you know him? What is going on between you?”
  9. Why are you his friend on Facebook/orkut/other social networking site?
  10. Why is he commenting so much on your photos?
  11. Why did you go for a movie without me?
  12. Why are you distracting me from my work?
  13. Can’t you decrease the frequency of calling/messaging?
  14. What are you upto? Spying on me?
  15. I do not want to listen to your problems, I have my own.
  16. Put down the phone I am with my friends.
  17. Why don’t you reply to my calls when you are office? (kidding me?)
  18. You should not eat this.
  19. I think you should not try to look sexy in front of others. Be simple so that only I can see you in crowd. (though many do not say this directly but somehow want this)
  20. You are so kiddish. Grow up.
  21. You do not love me anymore otherwise you must have allowed me to hug/kiss you! (Oh! come on!!!)
  22. You are going with me in the party. You should stay around me. Why you talk to men there?
  23. Do not call me so ofter as my Boss do not like me receiving calls from home.
  24. You do not cook like his wife! (OUCH!!!)
  25. You still love your “x” I can see this even after marriage.
  26. What do mean by spice in life is no more? I am giving you everything you want (except time right?)
  27. You do not think about me. Its all about you and your family.
  28. I can not go there with you. I am going for drinks with friends.
  29. I am not here to take care of the child. Its your department. (Like she is the only reason of the product huh?)
  30. Its all your mistake. Only because of you our children are like this. (WOW!!)
  31. You are no longer interested in me. You only think about children, fan, maid etc during making love.
  32. Are you dating someone else? One of my friends saw you with (the name)?
  33. Stop drinking. Girls do not drink (Like you have stopped!)
  34. Night outs and discos are not good places. (Only I can go there!!)
  35. Don’t say anything about my “x” as you do not know her (no matter how much I tease you on your “x” name)
  36. If I want you on bed you should be there (have you ever thought if you were there when she wants you and need a hug so that she can cry?)
  37. She is more sexy than you! (Oh! is that? Is she your partner?)
  38. You want me to sing a song? Insane… (why don’t you just SING)
  39. Flowers? waste of money!
  40. So what if I forgot the birthday and anniversary?

I think that much will be enough to make you realize how much you hurt her every moment. It is not done mate. You have to and must learn to pamper her. She is the one who has left her home to join your family. She is the one who satisfy your every need no matter its related to work, food or sex. She is the one who listen to you every time no matter you listen to her or not. She is the one who knows in what kind of mood you are in and what support you need.

This is very basic thing that we boys only look the beauty outside (in maximum cases) but the girl need someone who can pamper her when she is in bad mood. Who listen to her and be with her no matter she is right or wrong. Who loves every dress she wears and believe that her friends are his friends. They wait for that Mr.Right who love her for being her not for being a plastic doll.

You should be very clear about the following points to make you relationship a success otherwise “After one year of marriage, it becomes headache” will come true for sure.

  1. Love her. Pamper her and kiss her very often. Hold on tiger! its now always about lips. She has cheeks and forehead also which are equally kissable!! Try once at least.
  2. Be with her when she wants to cry. Do not let her down in bad moments of life.
  3. If she says she need some advice from some consultant, support her. You may be missing something.
  4. Let her go with friends without you. My dear she has personal life.
  5. Do not read her mails/SMS. Just have faith in her.
  6. Write poems for her. No matter how pathetic you are in writing!
  7. Do not drink in front of her if you can not see her drinking.
  8. Children are equal responsibility. Share them.
  9. Do not even think of blaming only her for the child’s misbehave.
  10. Give a flower daily or a hug daily in the morning. This will keep the spice in life active.
  11. Say “you are beautiful”, I love you for (some particular thing), Thank you for being in my life, You mean a lot to me.
  12. Ask her before kissing. Yes! You should! She will love the feeling.
  13. Open door for her, pull the chair for her, let her order first :) (very important)
  14. Try to make something for her to eat.
  15. Try to remember important dates. Note them down somewhere.
  16. You are equally kidding a lot of times.
  17. Do not mention your or her “x”.
  18. Do not point to her parents.
  19. Let her enjoy the job mate! please!!!!
  20. If she do not want to make love, kiss her, hug her and talk. Do not just turn your face and sleep.
  21. If anyone is admiring her beauty, be proud don’t be jealous as she is yours, only yours.

I have added only few points. In coming articles, I will explain a lot of things to keep her happy. One of my female friends asked, if I can give tips for girls also. My dear, yes! I can and I will :) just let the devil come back in his colors ;)

Till then, take care and please understand her my friend as she is the best thing happened to you! :)




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Its Time To Gift “Small” Chocolate!

Written by Anurag Bhateja on July 2, 2009 – 11:29 pm -

Hello! I am back with another tip :) . I feel its a long time and I should post a proper love tip. As this is time of being health conscious and have to eat less sweets ;), I found a way out to eat less and express love :D .

What to do? You have to think and search for this. Buy the smallest possible piece of chocolate from market. Buy 4-5 pieces of it. Make sure the flavor is of his/her choice. There are many people out there who like some specific taste of chocolate. Say dark chocolate, with almonds, with hazelnuts, white chocolate or what ever the choice is.

Write a small note. I am writing some examples here:
1. For my sweetheart, From your sweetheart
2. For Love, With love, From love
3. A smile with a kiss :) :-* yours…
4. May I?
5. ……. Do not have words at the moment.. Love….
6. Close your eyes and hide me inside… yours only

Now go to him/her, make him/her read the note and then open the chocolate. Have a small bite and make him/her to eat the rest of the piece from your hand. Give a kiss on forehead and Let him/her sit with you without getting indulged in anything further. Just be together for a while, feel the presence and enjoy the moments.

Though rest is your wish ;)

Enjoy and be together always.

With love, From love :)




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In Love? EXPRESS IT

Written by Anurag Bhateja on June 21, 2009 – 12:26 pm -

Yes, this is a love tip. After pauses, sometimes I feel I need to write on this topic. I am getting so many mails from “Broken hearts” for the solution of their problems and asking me to start a dedicated section for them so that people can ask me about their problems. So here is the link to the Solve Your Love Problems section.

Anyway, lets get back to the topic I was telling about. Love, is a feeling which can make your life the most beautiful thing for you or even can make a mess out of nothing. The main thing is what you are expecting from it. Love can not be defined, it can not be forced and you can not just go and get your boy/girl into your life. It is something unconditional and without and boundaries.

When you are in love, the first thing you should be clear about is that it is LOVE, not infatuation or attraction or crush but true and pure love. To find out if you are really in love please think of the following questions and answer them. You will find if you are in love or not. Give one point for every “YES”.

1. Do you see his/her physically or photo everyday in morning?
2. Do you want to call him/her when you are excited about something or feeling lonely?
3. Do you send him/her ecards or hardcovers cards telling you are missing him/her?
4. Do you see him/her in dreams?
5. Do you give kiss when you are about to sleep? (It is not important that s/he knows about it.)
6. Do you wait for him/her photo upload on social networking websites and try to be the first one to comment? Yes this is funny but a nice way to find out.
7. Do you get jealous when s/he praises someone else?
8. Do you want to just listen to him/her without saying a single word?
9. Do you have his/her picture in your computer/phone/purse?
10. Do you remember his/her phone number?

If you answer yes for 7 out of these 10 questions, dear express your love. Propose him/her. Please do not hide your feelings in you and tell him/her that s/he mean something to you. Now sometimes the case may be like this also that s/he is in love with someone else and you just do not want to mess his/her life but you, on the same time, are not able to control your emotions. In such condition, you should express your feelings in front of someone mature enough to suggest you what to do. Try to get information on how s/he reacts to the situation if something happens like this. If you find s/he may get furious and can break relationship with you, do not wait and tell.

Confused? Do not get confused. If s/he do not know, you will keep on getting closer and closer and will make situation more miserable. Once s/he know let him/her decide what to do. Is s/he is mature enough, s/he will tell you what s/he feels about you and will tell you to stop thinking about him/her. There can be 100s of people out there who are in one sided love and end up with very bad situations as they do not tell what they feel.

Another thing which can happen is his/her lover can try to mess with you. Do not feel bad or over react in such condition. It is you who created problem for them. So just calm down and talk to him/her and tell that you are not going to create problems with them. Try to be as friendly and calm as possible. This will help you and them to get out of the situation and will help you in to continue the friendship.

Now, what if s/he just go out of your life? What is s/he do not want to talk to you? Do not feel bad and let it be like this. Let the things calm down and then talk to him/her. After making things go in the way the person in front of you, never expected to be, you can not make everything normal in one go. You have to be very careful for every step you make.

And if, you are afraid of doing all this. You feel you should not do this, then you can just sit and watch your feelings just getting deeper and deeper. In such case please make sure you do not regret in future for not even expressing your feelings.

Be a good lover and admire him/her the way you want. Do not make their life hell by keep things secret and allowing room for the chance that they come to know about your feelings from someone else. This may harm your relationship more than you can harm it by directly telling him/her.




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